The Queen of Relationships

Why do we always think that someone can read our mind? Women are the worst at this, myself included. Geez, I give you all the signs and signals, why aren’t you getting what I’m saying? My boyfriend would say, “English, do you speak it”? Some of us don’t have the courage to say what we have to say so we send signals. Here’s something you might not have ever heard before..”PEOPLE CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND”. Unless you are Sylvia Brown, and even she is questionable.

You know, you are really being unfair to your mate if you expect them to read your mind. Yes, the world would be very interesting if we could read each other’s thoughts but wouldn’t be as much fun. Am I right? You will never get what you want if you don’t just come out and say it. It’s called “Communication”, ever heard of it? I have once or twice. I probably don’t even need to go into how important communication is. Really, without communication there really is no relationship. Well, there really isn’t a “healthy” relationship.

If you’re a woman, you are totally going to relate with what I’m about to say. Ever drop subtle hints to a man? You don’t come right out and say things but you just do it in a ’round about’ way. Then, when you are finally fed up with him not “getting it”, you explode. During your explosion, you throw at him every thing that has gone wrong for the past three months. He’s wondering where the hell any of this came from because he had no clue. Why didn’t he have a clue? Well, because he couldn’t read your mind, you know, he lacks the magical powers.

To make it fair, men are just as guilty when it comes to their lack of communication. What is it about men and not being able to express their feelings? Honestly, I think I would freak out if a man sat me down and says, “This is what I’m feeling”. It really just doesn’t happen. Sometimes? Yes. Most of the time? No. Men are taught from an early age that expressing their feelings is a ‘no no’. For some reason, they are taught that this sort of expression shows weakness. If men only knew how sexy they are when they share their feelings. It seems as if men would rather try to solve problems rather than discuss them. People do not all communicate the same. Couples need to find a common ground and go from there.

Here are some things you need to know about communication:

1. It’s okay to just come out and ask for what you want, it’s not selfish.
2. Just remember that if you ask for something you just might get it.
3. You must talk about your negative feelings or they might damage the relationship.
4. Men and women do not think the same way nor do they communicate the same way.
5. Do not try to hold everything in, you will eventually just blow your top.

*Free Tip* Whenever you get into an argument with your spouse or a heated debate, take out “YOU” from your vocabulary. Saying “YOU” will only make your mate feel as if you are pointing the finger at them and they will get defensive.

Examples:

A. I hate it when YOU don’t take out the trash.
B. It really disappoints me when the trash isn’t taken out.

So, unless your mate is “using the force”, I seriously doubt that he/she can read your mind. Communication really doesn’t have to be so difficult. I am curious as to why it is so hard for us “humans” to express our feelings. You must learn how to voice what you are feeling in a calm manner. You must never blame your mate for not knowing or understanding how you feel when you are silent. Remember, they can’t read your mind.

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