Comments on: Learning From Past Relationships http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/ Because Love Just Isn't That Simple Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:26:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-3667 The Queen Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:04:32 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-3667 I had that happen to me. It really sucks. We were perfect for one another in the beginning and then it just fizzled as the years passed. Just like you, he went one way and I went the other. We grew into different things, hobbies, tastes, etc. Even though it sucked to end it, it was good having someone that I was so compatible with to spend those years with. I had that happen to me. It really sucks. We were perfect for one another in the beginning and then it just fizzled as the years passed. Just like you, he went one way and I went the other. We grew into different things, hobbies, tastes, etc. Even though it sucked to end it, it was good having someone that I was so compatible with to spend those years with.

]]> By: Gabrielle http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2831 Gabrielle Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:27:51 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-2831 "9.Growing up and out of love: Sometimes you don’t need a extreme reason to end a relationship. Sometimes people just grow out of each other. I dated a guy for four years and within that four years, I went one way and he went another way. We were young but growing up together. Sometimes couples grow separate ways and what they wanted before is likely to change to something else. It’s okay to just end it because you want different things." So in other words, these two people changed... “9.Growing up and out of love: Sometimes you don’t need a extreme reason to end a relationship. Sometimes people just grow out of each other. I dated a guy for four years and within that four years, I went one way and he went another way. We were young but growing up together. Sometimes couples grow separate ways and what they wanted before is likely to change to something else. It’s okay to just end it because you want different things.”

So in other words, these two people changed…

]]> By: Wakas Mir http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1550 Wakas Mir Fri, 04 Sep 2009 01:41:00 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-1550 Nice list and hehe yah Men can't read minds :D Nice list and hehe yah Men can’t read minds :D

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-830 The Queen Sat, 18 Jul 2009 01:59:53 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-830 I think I spent so much time trying to change men in the past that I ended up changing during the process. It was a huge hum dinger. I think I spent so much time trying to change men in the past that I ended up changing during the process. It was a huge hum dinger.

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-792 The Queen Fri, 10 Jul 2009 16:07:19 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-792 <strong>Being with someone who has at point mentally abused you is reallly hard to detect while you are in it, unless it’s very obvious. Mine was very subtle with so many other great things, but in retrospect I can see it and wished I had not fallen “asleep”. But sometimes we learn for a reason and that is a good thing. This is why journaling helps a lot as we remind ourselves of things about us we might forget. Men can’t read minds kinda pisses me off, as I know if you put your effort in it’s not that hard to figure us out. It’s almost a convenient excuse for them. Nice one.</strong> Yes, being mentally abused is almost (sometimes) impossible to detect. It's very sly and sneaky. You have a gut feeling that something isn't right but you can't put your finger on it. Most of the time you can't seem to figure it out so you start pointing the finger at yourself, and soon enough will tell yourself you are going crazy. If you are ever in a relationship where someone makes you feel stupid, inferior, psychotic, insecure, unconfident,embarrassed,ugly,fat, unwanted, unloved...these are all signs of mental abuse. Again, it's hard to put your finger on it because it's not written in black and white, there's a serious grey area and you really have to be in tune with your feelings to point it out and sometimes a lot of us who are in abusive relationships are not that in tune. I know I wasn't, but I am now and I can usually pick up mental abuse pretty quick. Odd enough, mental abusers most of the time don't even know that they are doing it. Many do not know, they are just doing the same thing their parents did to them. Of course, there are mental abusers who know what they are doing also and do it to gain control or do it because they are insecure or are just down right mean. Being with someone who has at point mentally abused you is reallly hard to detect while you are in it, unless it’s very obvious. Mine was very subtle with so many other great things, but in retrospect I can see it and wished I had not fallen “asleep”. But sometimes we learn for a reason and that is a good thing. This is why journaling helps a lot as we remind ourselves of things about us we might forget.

Men can’t read minds kinda pisses me off, as I know if you put your effort in it’s not that hard to figure us out. It’s almost a convenient excuse for them.

Nice one.

Yes, being mentally abused is almost (sometimes) impossible to detect. It’s very sly and sneaky. You have a gut feeling that something isn’t right but you can’t put your finger on it. Most of the time you can’t seem to figure it out so you start pointing the finger at yourself, and soon enough will tell yourself you are going crazy. If you are ever in a relationship where someone makes you feel stupid, inferior, psychotic, insecure, unconfident,embarrassed,ugly,fat, unwanted, unloved…these are all signs of mental abuse. Again, it’s hard to put your finger on it because it’s not written in black and white, there’s a serious grey area and you really have to be in tune with your feelings to point it out and sometimes a lot of us who are in abusive relationships are not that in tune. I know I wasn’t, but I am now and I can usually pick up mental abuse pretty quick. Odd enough, mental abusers most of the time don’t even know that they are doing it. Many do not know, they are just doing the same thing their parents did to them. Of course, there are mental abusers who know what they are doing also and do it to gain control or do it because they are insecure or are just down right mean.

]]> By: Marina http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-789 Marina Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:37:18 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-789 Being with someone who has at point mentally abused you is reallly hard to detect while you are in it, unless it's very obvious. Mine was very subtle with so many other great things, but in retrospect I can see it and wished I had not fallen "asleep". But sometimes we learn for a reason and that is a good thing. This is why journaling helps a lot as we remind ourselves of things about us we might forget. Men can't read minds kinda pisses me off, as I know if you put your effort in it's not that hard to figure us out. It's almost a convenient excuse for them. Nice one. Being with someone who has at point mentally abused you is reallly hard to detect while you are in it, unless it’s very obvious. Mine was very subtle with so many other great things, but in retrospect I can see it and wished I had not fallen “asleep”. But sometimes we learn for a reason and that is a good thing. This is why journaling helps a lot as we remind ourselves of things about us we might forget.

Men can’t read minds kinda pisses me off, as I know if you put your effort in it’s not that hard to figure us out. It’s almost a convenient excuse for them.

Nice one.

]]> By: Tina T http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-787 Tina T Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:08:56 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-787 Very insightful post. I think that one of my favorites is not being able to change someone. Doesn't matter if it's a big thing like trying to get Mr no commitment to get married or trying to get a slob to dress better, not being able to change someone is a very long lesson to learn Very insightful post. I think that one of my favorites is not being able to change someone. Doesn’t matter if it’s a big thing like trying to get Mr no commitment to get married or trying to get a slob to dress better, not being able to change someone is a very long lesson to learn

]]> By: Jen-After the Alter http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-783 Jen-After the Alter Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:56:33 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-783 I am a true believer in numbers 1 and 2. I actually think they go together a lot of the time...Love isn't enough..there are so many factors that have to be there to make a relationship work..and one of those factors is that you have to be happy with yourself. A friend of mine just got divorced and she quickly jumped into other relationships...and I tried to tell her you have to be happy with yourself..no man can complete you and make you happy. Once you are content with yourself you can be content with someone else. I am a true believer in numbers 1 and 2. I actually think they go together a lot of the time…Love isn’t enough..there are so many factors that have to be there to make a relationship work..and one of those factors is that you have to be happy with yourself. A friend of mine just got divorced and she quickly jumped into other relationships…and I tried to tell her you have to be happy with yourself..no man can complete you and make you happy. Once you are content with yourself you can be content with someone else.

]]> By: Mamma Mia http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-782 Mamma Mia Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:42:26 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-782 Once again, I love it! My best friend is going thru a terrible time right now with her husband. I'm only hoping and praying for her and her kids that she will come to realize that she is in a mentally abusive relationship. It's awful to watch it happen, as this is a beautiful girl with a heart and personality to match. I've texted her a link to this article and I know that this will hit a note with her. Thanks Queen.... xo, mamma Once again, I love it! My best friend is going thru a terrible time right now with her husband. I’m only hoping and praying for her and her kids that she will come to realize that she is in a mentally abusive relationship. It’s awful to watch it happen, as this is a beautiful girl with a heart and personality to match. I’ve texted her a link to this article and I know that this will hit a note with her.

Thanks Queen….
xo,
mamma

]]> By: bobby http://queenofrelationships.com/learning-from-past-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-781 bobby Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:50:31 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=463#comment-781 This is a hell-of-a post! One of the best I've read in a while...major kudos to you :) I love the points that you made. I have learned to be more honest about what I want, honest with myself. For some reason, that was hard for me to do. This is a hell-of-a post! One of the best I’ve read in a while…major kudos to you :)
I love the points that you made. I have learned to be more honest about what I want, honest with myself. For some reason, that was hard for me to do.

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