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By: The Queen of Relationships » Blog Archive » Where Do You Find Single Men When Your Over 30? Dating In Your Thirties!

Sat, 24 Jul 2010 16:23:09 +0000

[...] Before you go on the search for your soul mate, read my recent post about learning how to “Settle For Your Soul Mate” [...]

By: Still Single

Still Single — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:59:44 +0000

I hear what you’re saying, but it’s still so frustrating! And, I refuse to settle. http://tiny.cc/1EXoT

No, I definitely don’t buy into the whole fairytale romance and I understand marriage is hard work, but I don’t want to be miserable for the rest of my life and just date/marry any man just so I can say I have one. That would be HORRIBLE!!!

Our parents and grandparents, etc. didn’t have to settle, so why should we? Settling = desperation. Getting married and having children is important to me, it’s something I really want. But I will not marry someone I don’t love, am not attracted to, etc. What’s the point? Where’s the joy?

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:11:35 +0000

Hello, Doll! I echo Heidi… “Where the hell you been?” Do you not realize your presence on Twitter has been duly noted???

FYI when I read this post, I simply replaced “women” with “gay men” and it works out just as well. I bet you didn’t know your work was so versatile, did you?

Hope you are well. I’ve been worried….

XO,
Jason

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:23:14 +0000

Baby, great article – but where the hell you been? Miss you loads!

By: David Walker

David Walker — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 08:40:57 +0000

Another cracking post

How true it all is. The perspective is a blokes one obviously for me but…

I spent years looking for something that only existed in my head. Too many years…

Then I had a date with somebody I wouldn’t have looked twice at. A date fixed by a mutual friend who was the line-manager of my date. I used to see them both in their office every now and then. Anyway… The friend sent an email tipping me off that somebody in the office had taken a shine to me. Given that there were just 2 off them you didn’t have to be a rocket scientist to work out who.

It was approaching Valentines Day and I popped into the girls office for some paperwork. During the usual chat I was asked by my friend how many cards I was going to get. I joked: “Just the one… from my mother!” The weekend before Valentines Day I received a card which said: “This is not from your mother!”

Needless to say,I spent the entire weekend turning the air blue, as I tried to decide what to do for the best. Didn’t want to be rude. Didn’t want to spark a diplomatic incident, etc. etc. Remember I hadn’t looked twice at her in that way at all as she wasn’t ‘my type!’

By mid morning on Valentines Day I had plucked up the courage to ask her to lunch, which we did that day. Both of us doing so out of politeness. The ‘date’ if you can call it that was a disaster, as was the return lunch which we also did out of courtesy so as not to be rude.

Then a funny thing happened we agreed to have a meal, with me intending to say this isn’t working! I gather she was going to say the same!! When inexplicably we hit it off… probably as we had both relaxed or something stupid lol

Any way we dated, holidayed together, got engaged & married and were extremely happy together. She had the light inside and it was that and the person inside that I fell in love with more than anything else.

As you know, she died suddenly aged 40 last August & our 3 1/2 wonderful years together was over I am happy for what we had together but I do kick my self every day for wasting all those years looking for something that probably never existed. Years I can’t get back. But I can’t change that & I doubt I would want to anyway! If I did that I wouldn’t have met the love of my life!!

Going forward I am conscious more than ever that I need to look for happiness in a different way.