Comments on: How To Spot A Player http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/ Because Love Just Isn't That Simple Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:54:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Anonymous http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6650 Anonymous Tue, 31 Aug 2010 14:13:34 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6650 we were talking about marriage etc.. but apparently that wasnt what he wanted(maybe it was - having his cake and eating it too).. his phone was always on vibrate but i met his family, friends introduced me as his wife.. we were together for 6 years. He cheated, we both (me and the other) have a child with him. When he begged to come back for over a year, I gave him another chance only to find out he was cheating on me again with his other baby mama.. hard as it is, i have to do whats best for me and my child. that is not an enviroment that fosters security. (Ask yourself what will his next parting gift to you be?? HIV??) we were talking about marriage etc.. but apparently that wasnt what he wanted(maybe it was – having his cake and eating it too).. his phone was always on vibrate but i met his family, friends introduced me as his wife.. we were together for 6 years. He cheated, we both (me and the other) have a child with him. When he begged to come back for over a year, I gave him another chance only to find out he was cheating on me again with his other baby mama.. hard as it is, i have to do whats best for me and my child. that is not an enviroment that fosters security. (Ask yourself what will his next parting gift to you be?? HIV??)

]]> By: Gabrielle http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6638 Gabrielle Tue, 24 Aug 2010 07:11:39 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6638 Ladies Beware!~Here's some more info so that other women don't fall for internet dating players. The one I met does the following: 1. Is on multiple Internet Dating sites including at least 1 naughty chat site 2.His dating profiles have very little info up about him ( no pics apart from nature ones etc ) and shares almost nothing about himself 3. Describes himself as looking for " a very good friend" and "just wanting to have fun" 4. Flatters like crazy in online chat 5. Takes ages to respond to emails and only ever writes a witty line or 2 6.Has more than 1 email address and uses more than 1 surname 7. Sends 1-2 word texts 8.Always has his phone in his pocket & on vibrate 9.Avoids making definite plans, instead just 'goes with the flow'. 10.Disappears online for a day/2 at a time 11.Is 'recently online' on another dating site not long after you were chatting to him online 12.Is sexually over the top on your first meeting 13.Forgets what he's emailed you Ladies Beware!~Here’s some more info so that other women don’t fall for internet dating players. The one I met does the following:
1. Is on multiple Internet Dating sites including at least 1 naughty chat site
2.His dating profiles have very little info up about him ( no pics apart from nature ones etc ) and shares almost nothing about himself
3. Describes himself as looking for ” a very good friend” and “just wanting to have fun”
4. Flatters like crazy in online chat
5. Takes ages to respond to emails and only ever writes a witty line or 2
6.Has more than 1 email address and uses more than 1 surname
7. Sends 1-2 word texts
8.Always has his phone in his pocket & on vibrate
9.Avoids making definite plans, instead just ‘goes with the flow’.
10.Disappears online for a day/2 at a time
11.Is ‘recently online’ on another dating site not long after you were chatting to him online
12.Is sexually over the top on your first meeting
13.Forgets what he’s emailed you

]]> By: Jellybean http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6569 Jellybean Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:37:19 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6569 Hey Queen, I posted an article on the player and used your blog as a source! :) Hope you don't mind...I didn't copy anything, your blog was just apart of my research. Here's the link, if you want to read it. http://quizilla.teennick.com/stories/16867885/how-to-spot-a-player Hey Queen, I posted an article on the player and used your blog as a source! :) Hope you don’t mind…I didn’t copy anything, your blog was just apart of my research. Here’s the link, if you want to read it.

http://quizilla.teennick.com/stories/16867885/how-to-spot-a-player

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6568 The Queen Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:35:34 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6568 Not judging, just telling it like it is. :) Not judging, just telling it like it is. :)

]]> By: Jellybean http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6567 Jellybean Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:31:32 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6567 don't be crude, it's not your place to judge. don’t be crude, it’s not your place to judge.

]]> By: Koga666 http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6496 Koga666 Tue, 06 Jul 2010 23:56:42 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6496 youre stupid for still fucking him, dirty pigeon youre stupid for still fucking him, dirty pigeon

]]> By: Jan M. http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-6007 Jan M. Sat, 01 May 2010 03:35:19 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-6007 Thanks so much for this discussion. I have gotten somewhat involved with a man who I think is a player. One of the things that has been stated here is so common with him and that is he leaves messages and then I don't hear from him for a day or two. Another thing he does is he uses like short one-liners that I have felt he probably uses with various women. Never my name just "I really love you" OR "you're so beautiful" OR "you're so precious to me". And that's it until next time. Lines that he probably picks out for the day and sends to a dozen or so women until the next day or even the next week. Even though he says he "loves me" I may not hear from him for a week. I'm not young and neither is he. We have never met but rather only talked on the internet. I think that he has this mind set that to play a women he must talk about wanting to take care of her and cherish her (me) and he obviously has not heard a word I have said about me being very independent. So thank you all for substantiating what I already felt to the case. Thanks so much for this discussion. I have gotten somewhat involved with a man who I think is a player. One of the things that has been stated here is so common with him and that is he leaves messages and then I don’t hear from him for a day or two. Another thing he does is he uses like short one-liners that I have felt he probably uses with various women. Never my name just “I really love you” OR “you’re so beautiful” OR “you’re so precious to me”. And that’s it until next time. Lines that he probably picks out for the day and sends to a dozen or so women until the next day or even the next week. Even though he says he “loves me” I may not hear from him for a week.

I’m not young and neither is he. We have never met but rather only talked on the internet. I think that he has this mind set that to play a women he must talk about wanting to take care of her and cherish her (me) and he obviously has not heard a word I have said about me being very independent. So thank you all for substantiating what I already felt to the case.

]]> By: Martha M http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-5797 Martha M Fri, 09 Apr 2010 22:07:30 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-5797 Players always lose because they can't connect with love. Actually, I just thought of this, because I (within the 90 day time frame) finally identified a man I really liked as a player after two dates...they manipulate and control and they are out of control inside (insecurity). It is a sickness, sort of an addiction, to prey on women. They're out for sex or money, and if they don't get one or both, they're gone. I wonder just how many years a player can live with the memory of some beautiful women who loved them for themselves and carry on with their cheating hearts, knowing the impression was made and the women knew who they really were either all along, all at once, or after the disappearing act. It's stealing, really and very emotionally unhealthy for a woman. They hit you just when you believe they recognize your unique qualities or share something deep...men are just dumb. In some American Indian societies, the women do the choosing, and that's it. We are way too fooled by "men have the power" thing. I've taken back my power and even then some, having studied this game I will warn every woman that Italian men are macho, delusionally entitled, brutal, verbally abusive and sick. Give me a nerd with a pure heart and I'll be happy. He won't want my sex or my money; he wants to take me out and have fun, watch sunsets, play guitar on the beach, buy groceries, not get bored, not have hang ups, just enjoy life while we have it. He's into me because I'm beautiful and one of a kind. Amen. Sorry this got so long-winded, I just had to write it out. Players always lose because they can’t connect with love. Actually, I just thought of this, because I (within the 90 day time frame) finally identified a man I really liked as a player after two dates…they manipulate and control and they are out of control inside (insecurity). It is a sickness, sort of an addiction, to prey on women. They’re out for sex or money, and if they don’t get one or both, they’re gone. I wonder just how many years a player can live with the memory of some beautiful women who loved them for themselves and carry on with their cheating hearts, knowing the impression was made and the women knew who they really were either all along, all at once, or after the disappearing act. It’s stealing, really and very emotionally unhealthy for a woman. They hit you just when you believe they recognize your unique qualities or share something deep…men are just dumb. In some American Indian societies, the women do the choosing, and that’s it. We are way too fooled by “men have the power” thing. I’ve taken back my power and even then some, having studied this game I will warn every woman that Italian men are macho, delusionally entitled, brutal, verbally abusive and sick. Give me a nerd with a pure heart and I’ll be happy. He won’t want my sex or my money; he wants to take me out and have fun, watch sunsets, play guitar on the beach, buy groceries, not get bored, not have hang ups, just enjoy life while we have it. He’s into me because I’m beautiful and one of a kind. Amen. Sorry this got so long-winded, I just had to write it out.

]]> By: kathy http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-4950 kathy Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:44:41 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-4950 Poor Lucy, this guy is totally playing you. He's using you because he can. He gives you crumbs to keep you hanging on so he doesn't have to be alone, all the while playing other women as well. I am sorry he's breaking your heart and I pray you find the strength to leave him and not be stuck in a marriage with him. If he really loved you he wouldn't see other women, PERIOD! You say he's honest with you, yeah right...if he gives you tidbits of truth mixed with lies, it's still lies. Sorry girl, dump this asshole and if you make the mistake to marry him, I hope you don't commingle your finances with him or bear his children...what an ass hole, I hate selfish people who use others like that! Poor Lucy, this guy is totally playing you. He’s using you because he can. He gives you crumbs to keep you hanging on so he doesn’t have to be alone, all the while playing other women as well. I am sorry he’s breaking your heart and I pray you find the strength to leave him and not be stuck in a marriage with him. If he really loved you he wouldn’t see other women, PERIOD! You say he’s honest with you, yeah right…if he gives you tidbits of truth mixed with lies, it’s still lies. Sorry girl, dump this asshole and if you make the mistake to marry him, I hope you don’t commingle your finances with him or bear his children…what an ass hole, I hate selfish people who use others like that!

]]> By: Anna http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-spot-a-player/comment-page-1/#comment-4664 Anna Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:15:58 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=206#comment-4664 My " player " played me for 6 yrs before i knew the truth of the matter , When i dumped him , he acted like it was he that was done with me ... as if !! My ” player ” played me for 6 yrs before i knew the truth of the matter , When i dumped him , he acted like it was he that was done with me … as if !!

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