Comments on: How To Get Your Ex Back http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/ Because Love Just Isn't That Simple Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:54:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Queen of Relationships » Blog Archive » How To Get A Guy To Like You + How To Get Your Ex Back + How To Get A Guy http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-6578 The Queen of Relationships » Blog Archive » How To Get A Guy To Like You + How To Get Your Ex Back + How To Get A Guy Sat, 24 Jul 2010 20:06:32 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-6578 [...] wrote a post awhile back about “How To Get Your Ex Back”…I know what you’re thinking, why did I just waste your time with complete bullshit if there [...] [...] wrote a post awhile back about “How To Get Your Ex Back”…I know what you’re thinking, why did I just waste your time with complete bullshit if there [...]

]]> By: Tony http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-6561 Tony Sun, 18 Jul 2010 19:34:27 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-6561 Hi many thanks for that. i think the latter is what i am doing...we no longer work together which helps. basically she broke up with me because she wanted more...the old its not you its me. it was hard because i fell in love with her and got soft and let her walk all over me...that i know now. She comes to me still when things are bad at work and i do what i can to get her back in order. our relationship was a big secret because we worked together, only a few knew. few weeks ago we all went out and her friends joined us too, friends i had met when we were dating. so last week she was out with them and she spent 30mins listening to them talk about me and how such a great guy i am, i knew how she was feeling at this stage but then they said if it was ok that they can still be friends (think she said yes to that wasnt there) so i asked her how did that make you feel when they said that, she said she felt bad...rather the other word she used was guilty! she is very challenging which was something i said to her from the start i like challenge and she is. Hi

many thanks for that. i think the latter is what i am doing…we no longer work together which helps. basically she broke up with me because she wanted more…the old its not you its me. it was hard because i fell in love with her and got soft and let her walk all over me…that i know now. She comes to me still when things are bad at work and i do what i can to get her back in order. our relationship was a big secret because we worked together, only a few knew. few weeks ago we all went out and her friends joined us too, friends i had met when we were dating. so last week she was out with them and she spent 30mins listening to them talk about me and how such a great guy i am, i knew how she was feeling at this stage but then they said if it was ok that they can still be friends (think she said yes to that wasnt there) so i asked her how did that make you feel when they said that, she said she felt bad…rather the other word she used was guilty! she is very challenging which was something i said to her from the start i like challenge and she is.

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-6555 The Queen Sun, 18 Jul 2010 14:09:40 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-6555 Tony, I don't think getting an ex back varies too much between men and women. Also, it depends on the reason for the break up and the situation surrounding it. If my ex wanted me back, the first thing that I would need to know is that he wanted me back. Sometimes some of us are oblivious to this fact and if we don't know, we might assume it's 100% over. Again, each situation is different. I can handle an ex 'planting the seed' and letting me know that he is considering trying it again but it depends on how much time has passed since the break up. I could only handle the 'seed' and not him calling me all the time, trying to convince me, trying to prove to me or showering me with attention and/or gifts. While I'm sure we would all soak this up, it will eventually turn into pity and not wanting to get back with you. Sometimes it's okay to say "I would like for us to try again" but that's it, you've got to let it go and let nature take it's course. Anything after this statement might run your chances into the ground. If you have screwed up, broken trust- we need to be left alone to gather thoughts and regroup. There's nothing you can do in such a short amount of time that will change anything so it's not worth your time trying. What I mean by this is- getting on one knee and begging, saying you've changed, acting desperate, etc. The one thing that sucks about getting your ex back is that it's not as immediate as you would like. It's going to be on her time and not yours. If she says she'll think about it, leave her alone and let her think. If she says no, leave her alone and let her think. She needs time to miss you and remember the good times, but as long as you are constantly there, being a constant reminder- it will push her further away. Tony, I don’t think getting an ex back varies too much between men and women. Also, it depends on the reason for the break up and the situation surrounding it. If my ex wanted me back, the first thing that I would need to know is that he wanted me back. Sometimes some of us are oblivious to this fact and if we don’t know, we might assume it’s 100% over. Again, each situation is different. I can handle an ex ‘planting the seed’ and letting me know that he is considering trying it again but it depends on how much time has passed since the break up. I could only handle the ’seed’ and not him calling me all the time, trying to convince me, trying to prove to me or showering me with attention and/or gifts. While I’m sure we would all soak this up, it will eventually turn into pity and not wanting to get back with you. Sometimes it’s okay to say “I would like for us to try again” but that’s it, you’ve got to let it go and let nature take it’s course. Anything after this statement might run your chances into the ground. If you have screwed up, broken trust- we need to be left alone to gather thoughts and regroup. There’s nothing you can do in such a short amount of time that will change anything so it’s not worth your time trying. What I mean by this is- getting on one knee and begging, saying you’ve changed, acting desperate, etc. The one thing that sucks about getting your ex back is that it’s not as immediate as you would like. It’s going to be on her time and not yours. If she says she’ll think about it, leave her alone and let her think. If she says no, leave her alone and let her think. She needs time to miss you and remember the good times, but as long as you are constantly there, being a constant reminder- it will push her further away.

]]> By: tony http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-6554 tony Sun, 18 Jul 2010 13:44:05 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-6554 This is all good. But I'm a guy who wants to get my ex back...how do over her back? This is all good. But I’m a guy who wants to get my ex back…how do over her back?

]]> By: dating advice for women http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-3413 dating advice for women Sun, 27 Dec 2009 06:56:07 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-3413 yes, this can help to all the guys and ladies out there. the The Queen of Relationships » Blog Archive » How To Get Your Ex Back is helpful to you. yes, this can help to all the guys and ladies out there. the The Queen of Relationships » Blog Archive » How To Get Your Ex Back is helpful to you.

]]> By: Bill http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-446 Bill Fri, 17 Apr 2009 00:24:45 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-446 You sure covered the subject completely, not much left to say...Great Post. You sure covered the subject completely, not much left to say…Great Post.

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-360 The Queen Wed, 08 Apr 2009 05:00:04 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-360 Stacey- I like the one where girls leave stuff at the dude's place. I can't believe she sprayed perfume. Did he think that she had gone completely bonkers? lol Stacey- I like the one where girls leave stuff at the dude’s place. I can’t believe she sprayed perfume. Did he think that she had gone completely bonkers? lol

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-359 The Queen Wed, 08 Apr 2009 04:59:10 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-359 Miss Attitude- I am so guilty of going after someone that really wasn't even worth a damn. In the end, I finally figured it out and like always he came running back, by then it was too late and I was so over him. Miss Attitude- I am so guilty of going after someone that really wasn’t even worth a damn. In the end, I finally figured it out and like always he came running back, by then it was too late and I was so over him.

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-358 The Queen Wed, 08 Apr 2009 04:58:22 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-358 Jay- You are so right about "Purchasing something that is about to be taken off the market". We all want what we can't have. Jay- You are so right about “Purchasing something that is about to be taken off the market”. We all want what we can’t have.

]]> By: The Queen http://queenofrelationships.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back/comment-page-1/#comment-357 The Queen Wed, 08 Apr 2009 04:57:39 +0000 http://queenofrelationships.com/?p=217#comment-357 Tammy- You are a perfect example of what "TO" do after being dumped. Look inward, better yourself, move foward...they eventually will come back, most of them always do. Tammy- You are a perfect example of what “TO” do after being dumped. Look inward, better yourself, move foward…they eventually will come back, most of them always do.

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